How do you allow your partner to grow without feeling abandoned?
What if you are ready for growth but your partner is comfortable in their own space?
Can you grow without them?
Is it ok to grow without them and how do you do it without making them feel abandoned or left behind?
Key notes
- Growing pains are emotional and physical
- Allow space and support for growth
- Bring your partner along for the ride
The pains of growing
Evolving into a new person is not all sunshine and rainbows. In fact, it’s not any of those things. It’s dark, heavy work to shed the old you to become someone new. While the pains of growing are one hundred percent worth it, you will struggle…a lot. If you are in a relationship your partner will be along for the ride as well. While they may not be in the grow phase with you, they are a part of watching your transformation.
Understand that you are not the only one who is impacted with these changes. Give your partner a little slack and a heavy dose of understanding, no matter what side you are on.
Support your partner
If your spouse, partner, friend or family member has made the brave decision to make a positive change, support them! It is not for you to understand the why behind the changes, however if you truly love someone you will put your own thoughts and desires on the back burner.
I am talking about any POSITIVE change.
Support can be a listening ear to their new ideas, asking questions to better understand their mindset or helping your partner have all the tools and/or space to work on this new change.
Doing it together
Spouses that grow together, bloom together.
If your partner tells you they want to make a change, say start working out or eating better, why not try it out with them? You may not feel strongly about this new change but the person that you love is trying to live a longer and healthier life. Isn’t that a good thing? If you join them on that journey, not only are you supporting them, you are also making a positive change in your life that can have huge implications on your future.
Support and understanding is one of the many ways to show your love. Doing hard things together will strengthen your bond while reaffirming your love for each other.
“The best partner for you doesn’t always roll over. They force you to up your game and evolve when they do. They pleasure you in ways that you never thought possible and press you in places that you never wanted to reveal. The most remarkable partner will challenge you to discover what you really want from life; transforming you from bud to bloom”
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